Union in Separation
aslisya va pada-ratam pinastu mam
adarsana marma-hatam karotu va
yatha tatha va vidadhatu lampato
mat-prana-nathas tu sa eva naparah
Krsna may embrace me in love or trample me under His feet. He may break my heart by hiding Himself from me. Let that debauchee do whatever He likes, but He will always be the only Lord of my life.
This is the greatest medicine for the devotees. We have come to measure the immeasurable, but we must always embrace this principle. In attempting to connect ourselves with the infinite Lord of love and beauty, we must remember that He is infinite. He is only one to us, but He has many devotees like us to deal with. He may embrace us with much affection and adoration, but we must be prepared for the opposite. We may stick to His feet, but He may cruelly trample us. We have caught hold of His holy feet with great hope, with our whole heart; still we may find that He tramples us and does not care for all our attempts and affection.
We may be giving our best and find that our offering is being hatefully dishonored. He may embrace us, but at the same time we must be prepared that His dealings may be extremely cruel. He may trample all our offerings beneath His feet. We must be prepared for both His adoration and His hateful negligence. We should be prepared for any adverse circumstances.
Krsna may be indifferent. He may not care. And when He is punishing us. He is nearer, but when He is indifferent it is even more intolerable than punishment. The devotee thinks, "Krsna is ignoring me, neglecting me so much that He does not like to keep any connection with me. Doesn't He know me? Am I a foreigner, unknown to Him?" We may accept punishment as a boon, but indifference is even more heart-rending.
The pain of separation felt by a devotee may even go a step higher. Krsna may affectionately embrace another right before our eyes, in front of our face, without caring even a little for us. We may think, "This is my claim, my right," but that may be given to another right in front of our faces. That will be a source of increasing trouble to us.
This is the law of affection. The law of love cannot tolerate indifference. It is too much to tolerate, but we must be prepared for that. We must be prepared from the beginning that this is the meaning of krsna-prema, divine love for Krsna, because He is an autocrat. He is love. Divine love means mercy, and not justice. There is no law there. And we have selected divine love to be our highest fortune, so we must be prepared to be treated without justice. There is no justice in divine love; it is free. It may flow anywhere and everywhere. This is the very nature of divine love, so we can't make any claim—we have no rights.
This is the nature of the highest thing, and it is extremely rare. But unhesitating adherence to that principle is required from our side. It is real love, and you must be prepared for that. In all adverse circumstances, this is the real nature of krsna-prema: die to live. If you can accommodate all these different stages, good or bad, then you can enter this exalted plane.
Love is Above Law
Justice is within law; mercy is above law. Prema, divine love, is also above law, but it has its own law. Another verse whose meaning runs parallel to this one is given by Srila Rupa Goswami Prabhupada:
viracaya mayi dandam dinabandho dayam va
gatir iha na bhavatah kacid anya mamasti
nipatatu sata-koti nirbharam va navambhas
tad api kila payodah stuyate catakena
There is a kind of small bird named cataka that only drinks rainwater. It never drinks any water from the earth, whether it is from a river, fountain, or lake. Its very nature is that with its mouth upward, it hankers after rainwater. Srila Rupa Goswami gives this example to show how a devotee should always be waiting in expectation of the "rainwater" of Krsna-love, and no other love.
The devotee prays to the Lord, "You are the friend of the fallen, so I have some hope. You may grant Your grace, or severely punish me—in either case, I have no other alternative but to wholly surrender to Your lotus feet."
Our attitude of surrender should be just like that of the cataka bird, who always has his eyes fixed upward, praying for rainwater. Rainwater may come profusely—not only enough to fill up his small belly, but enough to drown his whole body. Thunder may come from above; a bolt from the blue may come and finish his small body, and send him to the nonexistent quarter, but still the nature of that bird is to pray exclusively for rainwater. He won't take water from any other place under any circumstance. Our attitude towards Krsna should be like that: whether or not He extends His gracious hand towards us, it is our duty to surrender unto Him.
In this connection, one verse comes to my memory. When Sri Krsna met Srimati Radharani and the gopis in Kuruksetra after a long separation of perhaps a hundred years. He felt that He had committed a great crime by separating Himself from them. Approaching near the gopis, especially Srimati Radharani, and remembering their qualities of love and surrender. He felt like the greatest criminal, so much so that He bent down to touch the lotus feet of Radharani.
One poet has represented the scene in this way, and that poem has been collected by Rupa Goswami in his Padyavali. Krsna was at that time the paramount king of India. But when He came in connection with the gopis and the atmosphere of Vrndavana, He felt like a criminal, and bending down. He was just about to touch the lotus feet of Radharani, when Radharani, drawing back, remarked, "What are You doing? Why are you coming to touch My feet? This is astounding. Have You lost Your mind?
I am the Real Criminal
"You are the master of everything. No explanation can be demanded of You. You are swami. You are My husband and master, and I am Your maidservant. It may be that for some time You were engaged in some other quarter, but what's the harm in that? What is the fault in You for that? That does not matter, for that right is given to You by scripture and society. There is no crime, no sin on Your part. You have done nothing wrong.
"I am the real criminal. The meanness is with Me, the defect is wholly with Me. You are not responsible for Our separation, so why do You consider that You are faulty, or that You have committed some wrong? The positive proof that I am the real criminal is that I sustain My life; I did not die from the pangs of Your separation.
"I am showing My face to the world, but I am not faithful to You. I could not approach the standard of faith which I should have maintained for Your love, so I am the criminal, not You. It has been written in the scriptures by the saints that the wife should be thankful and exclusively devoted to the husband. This has been ordained in the scriptures. A woman should be devoted exclusively to her husband, her lord. So in this meeting I should fall at Your feet and beg for Your pardon, for Your forgiveness that I have really no love for You. I am maintaining this body, and showing My face to society; I am not a proper partner for You, so please forgive Me. You are begging My forgiveness? This is just the opposite of how things should be. What is this? Please don't do this."
This should be the ideal of our affection for Krsna. We, the finite, should take this attitude towards the infinite. At any time. He may only give a little attention to us, but we should be all-attentive towards Him. And there is no alternative. Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu advises that we have exclusive devotion towards Krsna, and as we are insignificant, our attitude must be of this type.
If we want such a great thing, then it is not an injustice that we should be treated hatefully. Our prospect, understanding, and adjustment must be that of self-sacrifice and self-forgetfulness, just as when someone goes to fight for his country on the battlefield, there is no room for luxury or excessive desires.
I remember in this connection that when Gandhi formed his nonviolence army, one of the volunteer soldiers asked, "Please arrange tea for us." Gandhi told him, "The water of the river may be supplied to you, but no tea. If you are ready for that then come forward." If we want to connect ourselves with the vrndavana-lila of Krsna, we can make no conditions. Then, we shall understand the method recommended by Sriman Mahaprabhu: humility greater than that of a blade of grass. There should be no complaint from our side. Not only in the external position of our present life, but even in eternal life, any complaint from our side should be carefully eliminated and we must fully accept the ways of the Lord. Krsna may accept us or reject us; we have to take that risk. Only then may we make progress.
In some way or other, if we can enter the group of Krsna's servitors, we will find that everyone has such a nature, and when they meet together, they will console each other in their respective groups. In different serving relationships there are different sections of servitors of a similar nature, and they console each other with talk of Krsna (krsna-katha). In Bhagavad-gitd (10.9, 12) Krsna says:
mac-citta mad-gata prana
Kathayantas ca mam nityam
tusyanti ca ramanti ca
"My devotees mix together, talk about Me, and exchange thoughts that give consolation to their hearts. And they live as if this talk about Me is their food. It gives them a high kind of pleasure, and they find that when they talk about Me among themselves, they feel as if they are enjoying My presence."
aham ajnana-jam tamah
"When sometimes the feeling of separation from Me is very acute in My devotees, I suddenly appear before them and quench their thirst for My company."
Sweetness Within Pain
In this last verse of His Siksastakam, Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu has given another very fine and high type of solace. And this has been confirmed by Krsnadasa Kavi-raja Goswami, who has written:
bahye visa-jvala haya bhitare ananda-maya
krsna-premara adbhuta canta.
"Don't be afraid. Outwardly you may feel a horrible pain of separation, but internally, you will feel an unparalleled type of rasa, the most pleasing feeling of peace, joy, or ecstasy." Externally, there may be pangs of separation, but internally there is the greatest satisfaction.
In this way we are advised by the scriptures, and our practical experience corroborates our faith in this subtle matter. The English poet, Shelley, has written
"Our sincerest laughter
With some pain is fraught;
Our sweetest songs are those
That tell of saddest thought."
When we are reading an epic where there is cruel separation between the hero and the heroine, it is so sweet to us that although we shed tears, still we cannot leave the book. When we hear about the pangs of Sita-devi, how Ramacandra banishes Her and leaves Her uncared for in the forest although She is with child, this is very painful. We shed tears, but still we read on. There is sweetness within pain. It is possible.
Separation from Krsna is like that. The special characteristic of krsna-prema is this: externally, we feel extreme pain, like lava, but internally our heart is filled with some extraordinary ecstatic joy. This is what Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu has given us. As much as we can catch the meaning of His instructions, we shall be prepared for that kind of life. This is the fare to go to Vrndavana, and when we are introduced to so many others like us, then our joy knows no bounds. When we meet others who have the same nature and mind as us, we get solace from them. We need not be afraid. In spite of all these things, we should think firmly that that is our home, and we should want to go back to home, back to Godhead.
We are not foreigners there. Here we are foreigners: every man treats me in any way he likes. But Vrndavana is most hopeful and full of the highest prospect. It is the place of inner satisfaction. We aspire after that; we cannot but continue aspiring for our real home. What is real joy and ecstasy? We are not acquainted with that. This is our present trouble. Yet as much as we progress in Krsna consciousness, we shall become conscious of a practical feeling of real joy and ecstasy, beauty and charm, and in this way, we shall become more and more encouraged.
yad-avadhi mama cetah krsna padaravinde
nava-nava-rasa-dhamany udyatam rantum asit
tad-avadhi bata ndri-sangame smaryamane
bhavati mukha-vikarah susthu nisthivanam ca
"Before I came in touch with the Krsna-love of Vrndavana, worldly pleasure was of much importance to me; but now, if any mundane taste comes in my memory, my face becomes disfigured, and I spit at the thought."
So if we get a slight taste of that ecstasy, then at once we come to the conclusion that there can be no comparison between that and any peace or pleasure here in this mundane world. At the same time, once we are settled in that atmosphere, no pain can disturb or affect us in any way.
There is another side also: although we are advised to be prepared for painful separation, the fact is not so cruel in reality. Krsna says, mayi te tesu capy aham: "1 am always with My devotees." Wherever there is an exclusive devotee, Krsna is there like his shadow, always invisibly moving after him. This is the Lord's nature:
hy asvatantra iva dvija
The Lord tells Durvasa, "I am the slave of My devotees; I have no freedom apart from their will. Because they are completely pure and devoted to Me, my heart is controlled by them, and I reside always in their hearts. I am dependent not only on My devotees, but even on the servants of My devotees. Even the servants of My devotees are dear to Me.
Krsna is not a Sweetball
We must be prepared for any unfavorable circumstances, but we must not be discouraged. Krsna is most affectionate; His care towards us is most acute and sincere. His affection towards us has no rival. Still, Sriman Mahaprabhu has given us a warning in this verse: "You are coming to search after Krsna? Krsna is not a sweetball from the market that you can purchase and finish so easily. You are trying to attain the highest of the high, so you must be prepared for anything."
At the same time, the devotees will come to us saying, "Have no fear. We are all like you. Let us all walk together in a straight line. Don't be afraid—we are here." We are told that Krsna's devotees are even more sympathetic to us than Krsna Himself. The solace of our life and our fortune is His devotees, and Krsna says: mad bhaktanam ca ye bhakta, "One who is a servant of My servant is My real servant." Sadhu-sanga, the association of saints, is the most important and valuable thing for us. To make our advancement and progress towards the infinite, our association is our guide; it is all-important. We must stick to this conclusion:
'sadhu sanga,' 'sadhu sanga,'—sarva sastre kaya
lava-matra sadhu-sange sarva-siddhi hayi
The conclusion has been given in the scriptures that all perfection can be attained by the help of the saints. Good association is our greatest wealth in reaching the supreme goal.